Tuesday, May 29, 2007

My Search for Help

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I’m very much a loner and would never have thought of reaching out to others. It was when I was studying the benefits of individual and group therapy did I wonder if I was at a disadvantaged because I didn’t reach out, especially regarding weight loss. That was when I decided to see various people about my problem (before then I had relied solely on books). First I tried Weight Loss Buddy. I partnered with someone to support and in turn be supported by via email. Well, my weight loss body started emailing me those mass emails, which I hated. But I had a hard time communicating this, so instead I canceled my email account. My second attempt was with the nutritionist at the school. I met with her a couple of times and she re-introduced me to the food pyramid. I lost quite a bit of weight but couldn’t lose anymore. Although I learned to eat my fruits and vegetables, I didn’t learn to cut down on fat. Then I tried the support groups, Overeaters Anonymous (OA), Weight Watchers (WW), and TOPS. All three, I had ran away from as if there was a contagious disease in the room. I went to two OA meetings, which was enough for me to say it wasn’t for me. The tone of the meeting was spiritual, which I find I am not so much, and the meeting lasted forever. TOPS meeting was also too long for my taste, and the meeting place had a strong smell of tobacco smoke, which I didn’t care for. Needless to say I didn’t return after the first one. Then there was WW. I liked the shortness of the meeting, but I didn’t like how commercial it was. All along the walls were items for sale. And I didn’t like the points system. One meeting was enough for me.

Then I tried blogging, which I’m still doing today. All three of the support groups that I sampled were quite large that I never had a chance to share my story. Even if I had stayed there for a year, I felt I wouldn’t have a chance to speak. Blogging, I found my soapbox and I found wonderful support and feedback from my readers (Thank you readers!).

Lastly there’s Spark People (SP). With SP, I was able to keep track of my calories (something which I have struggled with in the past). Also, I was able to meet tons of people quickly. With blogging, searching for active blogs to read was quite challenging. Also with SP, I met someone whom I really would like to see be successful, which have changed my perspective of the weight loss community. In the past, I saw the weight loss community as a group to share my struggles with. Now I see it as a group I would like to support and encourage.

When I was interning at the hospice, a chaplain had said, “What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win.” I found this to be true with my weight loss journey. When it was only for myself, I lost motivation quickly. Now that I also do this with the hope of encouraging others, I haven’t lost motivation since.


Kim said...

Hi! I wanted to thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment! :) It's always nice to meet people who hare working towards the same goals.

I know what you mean about looking for help. Just admitting that I needed it was a huge issue for me. When I started blogging I never did it with the idea of meeting others, or even gaining support from them, but boy have I! It has been a tremendous benefit, from the kind words, to the solid kick in the pants on occasion!

Best of luck to you in your journey - I'm a firm believer in taking all of the help that you can get!

Tree Lover said...

You are right. Community and group support are so important! I know I wouldn't have gotten to where I am with my journey without it.

Living to Feel Good said...

I'm glad you haven't lost your motivation yet. I love blogging for that reason...the support and connection you get. I went to WW meetings, and I personally liked it, but most of the time I was very shy and hung out in the corner. After a while I did speak up, but overall I am a very shy person. With the blog however I am not shy, I am truely myself. Even when I am down and not on track, if I start ready about other people who are being successful, or they talk about what an awesome workout they got in, it inspires me and makes me want to continue going, and I hope I bring that inspiration back to others. Hang in there...it's a long journey, BUT it's worth it! :)

Living to Feel Good said...

ready=reading...maybe I should proof read. Hahaha. :)

I fear no one’s opinion! I am knowledgeable, focused, and efficient. I make this priority and build from experience. I do this for my children and myself. Supported by love, I will persevere.