Tuesday, August 01, 2006

A Touchy Subject?

It has happened before. More times then I care for. My husband and I got into another fight concerning my weight loss efforts. Sometimes I feel that we are just repeating our arguments over and over again. This is what happened this time…

I was writing in my food journal, when I mentioned that I disliked doing it. My husband says something like this “If you can’t maintain it for the rest of your life you will fail.”

Well, duh.

I was irritated by this comment for many reasons. He has already told me this before and because of that I had already changed my food journaling to only be temporary. I had already told him that several times, so he wasn’t listening. Additionally, I felt like he was telling me that I was going about my weight loss efforts the wrong way (again), but again he fails to tell me an alternate plan that I agree with (if any). I hate how I always have to justify my actions for him. I snapped at him. I told him that he expects me to fail. He gets angry that I took him the wrong way and that I had snapped at him. He says that he might as well not say anything. I hate it when he says that. I need his support. Why do I over-react? Why can’t I just stay neutral and say, “You’re right.” He says that I expect him to be in my cheering squad section but that isn’t his way. His way is to give feedback and advice. I wish he would just give me the support without the advice.

5 comments:

Jen said...

I have found that to be such a man thing. We expect support and love. They want to offer solutions and advice. No no no, just encourage me..don't tell me what to do. I feel your pain. Tell him exactly that. You want the support, no advice..thank you very much :)

Outburst said...

It's tough because I'm sure he means well but that's not usually the best way to support someone.
When someone nags me about something, it makes me want to flip them off too.

Hope4Baby said...

It is hard when your DH doesn't understand.
It is also hard not to over react. we know what to do, we go to the meetings. They just watch from a far and think they can do it better.

I hope that you guys are able to find a good medium.

Ask the Coach said...

The first mistake dieters make is to tell people they're dieting. It's better to wait at least a month or until it starts to show; and even then, I might not tell!

Lily T said...

I don't think it's a mistake to tell other that you are dieting. How else can you get their support?

I fear no one’s opinion! I am knowledgeable, focused, and efficient. I make this priority and build from experience. I do this for my children and myself. Supported by love, I will persevere.